http://ping.fm/bnRal I <3 this image shared by the German Shepherd community on Facebook. I love it because of course I love animals. But it also fits in well with my last post.
Why is it acceptable to some of you to hate your brothers and sisters based on their size. Why do you feel it is okay to hurt the feelings of a person with a larger physique? You do not know that person's story. You do not know the reasons why they are the way they are. Hint: It ain't because they love KFC more than being thin and being considered "attractive" by modern societal standards.
There are a myriad of reasons why people are shaped the way they are. You don't know why a given person looks the way they do. And not being a stick figure does not necessarily make a person either "fat" or "unhealthy."
Even the "perfect people" in magazines do not actually look the way we see them looking. Don't believe me? Take a look at this. I guarantee, you will be shocked. It is a real eye-opener.
I do not care if you are thin or fat or somewhere in between. I will judge you on your actions, not your size or other aspects of your physical appearance. It is not that I am some sort of guru by any means, but I believe this would be a better world if we all do the same.
George Takei is awesome, but this joke isn't necessarily. It was on his Facebook page, which generally I recommend and love. And I love George, but I don't love size prejudice. Well, this is the comment that I left.
I heard about all the mean spirited comments regarding this photo and I have to say I am saddened. First of all, why all the hate towards people based on body size? We should judge each other on our actions, not on our appearance.
Secondly, what a boring world it would be if we all looked the same. Number 12 looks just like you. I'm not going to explain it. If you don't know what I mean, look it up.
Third, shaming never made anyone the way others think they should be. If it did, there would be no people with addictions, no fat people, no anorexic people, and everyone would be the same religion or lack thereof.
What gives some of you the right to believe that everyone "chooses" to be the size they are or have the appearance they have? I did not "choose" to be in an auto accident, one of the consequences of which was damage to my kidneys. I do not "choose" to have to walk with a cane. I do not "choose" to be the size I am, but it would hurt a lot less if there were fewer hateful people.
George, I love you and I don't think you are being hateful, but please think about it. You have never had issues with your weight. Size is not all about "sitting around stuffing your face constantly" or even not working out. There are healthy fat people and there are unhealthy thin ones. I wish I were a healthier fat one but due to my physical limitations I can't work out very much. And no, I do not eat constantly.
Please, people, think about the hate you spew. Is it really necessary?
I weigh 425 pounds. I am a human being. You may not find me beautiful, but it is not your right to behave hatefully towards me simply because you find me unattractive.
People dare to say that Amy Winehouse, who died today at the age of 27 from a drug overdose, was "a drain on the world" because she was a drug addict.
These people do not understand the power of addiction. It isn't fully understood in the medical community either. In some people, the satiation centers of the brain are triggered by certain substances, causing overwhelming cravings.
Amy was not able to gain control over these cravings. But this does not make her "a waste." She had a beautiful voice. She seemed like a nice person. She also seemed terribly lost in many ways. I am very sorry for her death, and for the difficulties she encountered in life.
I too have encountered people who have the audacity to tell me that I'm "a waste of space," a "drain on the world," even "bankrupting America." That I'm lazy and have no self-control.
Why?
Because I am a very large human being. I weigh 425 pounds. I usually walk with a cane, but when I am feeling particularly exhausted or having a significant amount of pain, I will use one of the scooters at the store, even though I *can* walk. I was in an accident eight years ago that left me with a spinal cord injury and impaired kidney function. Admissibly, a fair bit of my weight gain came from comfort eating once I could eat again. I was very depressed and simply did not give a shit about gaining weight. All I knew is that now I was in constant pain, incontinent of urine, and might have to be on dialysis for the rest of my life. The last thing I cared was staying skinny to please other people.
At this point I do not eat any more than other people. Some days I probably eat less. But nobody believes this because I am so big. I work out in a therapy pool. I can't do exercises that put a lot of strain on my joints. If a person can do high-impact, high-intensity workouts, good for them. I used to spend hours in the gym to keep myself below 200 pounds. Those days are gone forever.
So, it seems, is any chance of being left alone to live my life in peace. I would never go up to someone who was chain-smoking and tell them that their filthy habit was "costing me more money" or tha they should "just die." And I would never go up to a skinny person and tell them that their "anorexia" was going to end them up in the hospital and thus would "cost me more money." First of all, how do I know that they're anorexic? Maybe they are on chemotherapy. Maybe they have Marfan syndrome. Maybe they have some other disease. Or maybe they're just skinny. And how do I know what their eating habits are? I've known skinny people who can pack in more food at a buffet hour than I could think about eating in a day's worth of meals!
When I go to buffets, I tend to load up on salad, then have a good portion of meat for protein. But whose damn business is it if I decide I'd like a bit of macaroni and cheese, mashed potatoes, or a dinner roll or two with that? If I weighed 125 pounds, no-one would be giving me the stink eye if I had twice the amount of food on my plate or if I was eating nothing but desserts. If you're fat you can be eating nothing but carrots and people will still assume that you're a glutton.
The bigger drain on the world comes from people who see the need to spew their hate and judgment everywhere.
You don't know Amy Winehouse. You don't know what drove her to addictive behavior. You don't know how it felt to be her, to live with the shame and the pain she must have felt. So don't judge her.
And you don't know me. You don't know why I'm fat. You don't know what my eating habits are. You don't know what medications I may be on or what physical reasons I may have for being the size I am. You don't know why I'm riding one of those scooters to do my shopping or to get down the street.
So stuff your judgments where the sun don't shine. Because they belong with the rest of your shit.
I'm sorry, but this article about how the author found the perfect conditioner while institutionalized in a highbrow Manhattan psych ward for a nervous breakdown made me, a person who has had experience with psych holds in much grittier places, want to straight up barf. When she perkily asked "have you ever been institutionalized?" as if she were talking about spending a weekend at a spa, I just had to respond.
Yes, I have been institutionalized, and it wasn't in a highbrow Manhattan sanitarium. It was some 30 years ago in Denver and I (like everyone else there) was for the most part treated very poorly and condescendingly. I realize that people have different experiences in life, but I don't see being institutionalized as anything close to "cute." Believe me, the condition of my hair was nowhere close to a concern when I was in this craphole.
http://ping.fm/ynOEh A great song, and one of the most fabulously cheesy metal videos of all time!
There was a certain subset of crack-smokers commenting about Lady Gaga and another subset who saw the moronic need to point out the obvious: Messiah is a chunky fellow. That's all good and fine when said factually but when stated as a character flaw, well--I defy any of you nimrods to sing the way he does. One of the greatest metal vocalists of all time, bar none. And really, not a bad-looking dude either. I like guys of all body types. My body may be too much of a wreck to indulge my fantasies, but my eyes still like to look! And I'd far sooner get down to business with Messiah than with a twit who has nothing better to do than criticize others.
Here's Opal's Wisdom. Read it. Live it. Learn from it!
I find myself wondering why anyone would comment about Lady Gaga one way or another on a Candlemass video. I actually like all different kinds of music and Lady Gaga has a certain talent, but the two musical types are apples and oranges. As for the dumb morons making junior-high level comments about Messiah's body type, who the hell cares if the guy is fat, thin, or somewhere in between? He's a fantastic vocalist. As for the video, it's pure cheese--but I love it!
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